Relationship Advice – Play Tai Chi Together!

By on 07/09/2015

Relationship Advice

Want to build a strong, lasting relationship?   Play tai chi together!

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Relationships require commitment and hard work. While all new relationships are exciting at the start, there comes a time when those strong feelings fade a bit; the “fire” dwindles.  This is especially true for couples who fail to nourish their bond with enough loving, caring, and enjoyment.  Marriage and relationship experts have found that couples who enjoy doing things together are likely to have a stronger, more lasting bond in the process.   Hence, taking up a hobby they both can enjoy is key relationship advice for committed couples.  One of the best activities that couples can pursue together is playing Tai Chi.  Tai Chi, being an  active, exercise type of activity, can be enjoyed throughout the life span, and also taught to their children as the family grows.

Historical Perspective of Tai Chi:

The origin of Tai Chi (in a nutshell) is a blend of the components of physical survival and the fundamentals of Chinese philosophy.  Legend has it that many years ago, a man witnessed a fight between a serpent and a crane. With continuous jabs of his beak, the crane attempted to defeat his opponent.  However, the snake shifted its body weight at the perfect moments and remained free of harm until the crane grew tired, gave up, and left.  Through time, Tai Chi also emerged as a unique form of martial art that focused on “internal strength” combined with agility, balance and flexibility instead of brute force.

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Tai Chi builds lasting relationships

Philosophy of Tai Chi:

Rather than being a sport with one style / form to play, tai chi has the diversity of literally hundreds of different styles to choose from.  Not only can movements learned through Tai Chi be used in self-defense, it can also be used to nurture a mental attitude that helps one to successfully manage life’s daily stressors.  For instance, the physical movements of Tai Chi are fluid; they move along with force, not in opposition to it (go with the flow).   To apply this lesson to a relationship, when we are confronted with situations we believe to be threatening, our knee-jerk reaction is to force a change or manipulate our partner or situation who we actually have no control over.  Like the snake example, Tai chi teaches us to change the situation through self-control and gently shifting.  In other words, couples are trained to act without forcing and to move in accordance with the flow of the situation.

Learning to go with the flow helps couples to seek comfort in solitude rather than force.

Tai Chi also brings couples back to their childhood, embracing joy, innocence, play, and laughter. These are traits that as adults, we lose the ability to use and appreciate within ourselves. Tai Chi is also great in helping couples realize that true understanding comes from emptying the mind and lowering the walls of the ego.

Benefits that Couples Can Gain from Tai Chi:

relationship adviceCouples who have played Tai Chi consistently make several claims about the amazing mental and physical benefits it has to offer.  Additionally, research studies have also proven that the effects of Tai Chi are very similar to those produced by other forms of aerobic exercise. Tai Chi is said to improve heart rate and mood. It can also reduce fatigue and physical tension, anxiety, and anger, and lessen mood disturbances. Regular engagement in Tai Chi can increase measures of flexibility and muscle strength, promote psychological and physical balance, and enhance tranquility and emotional control. Also, Tai Chi has been credited for helping to improve arthritis, back injuries,  stress insomnia, hypertension, digestive disorders, and more!  It also generates a sense of inner peace that seems unparalleled among various other relaxation or exercise techniques.


The benefits from tai chi are enjoyed with couples (or individuals) who continually practice a half hour or so per day. Some advocate early morning practice as a great way to start the day, while others prefer to end the day with this form of exercise.  Some forms will energize and wake you up, others are more relaxing and can calm you down.  There really is no time that is best. What is important is for you and your partner to engage and enjoy tai chi together.


Here is a short video of a couple in Hawaii performing at the 2012 Tai Chi festival.  What I like most is not that they are Master level or have perfected the form, but that they represent most of us – just folks enjoying a hobby together.


Do you practice Tai Chi with your spouse or best friend?  If not, perhaps s/he will consider taking up the sport too?  Share this video with him/her and perhaps they will reconsider.


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